Hi this is my first time posting. I have been married for 5 years and we have been together for 8 we have one daughter who is 6 and I have a son who is 19. My husband and I have had a very good marriage and a strong one so 3 weeks ago when my husband became someone I don't even know it stunned me. He told me that he loves me and cares alot about me but he does not feel the butterflies anymore. My husband has only been with one other women in his life and that was his ex-wife whom he had dated since he was 13 years old. They married in 1999 and my husband and I got together in 2002 as they were just spliting. He feels he has missed out on dating and living the single life. I am confused because just a couple of weeks ago he said he still found me sexy and pretty. Okay in the past 12 months I have lost my father, my sister had a nervous break down, my mother did not want to live anymore, and my other sister was going through a divorce. On top of that my son who is mentally handicap is more than a handful and I was trying to find him placement which has not been an easy task. I have still managed to help my husband coach my daughters T-Ball team go to my husbands softball games, take my daughter to cheer practices, school ect.... I guess I did not notice that my marriage was struggling. My husband at first wanted a divorce. He has lost some weight and I guess he had decided that the grass is greener on the other side. Me as the level headed one did some research and discoved that maybe he is going through a midlife transistion. I asked him to read it with an open mind and of course he agreed but the only reason he was going through it was because of me. HUMMMM okay so we have talked and talked and talked and he does not know what he wants. When I tell him that I will leave I get a different story. That lets just see how it goes. In the mean time he really don't have anything to do with me or say when we are together. I am loosing my mind over this. I am the type of person that you can only do or say so much and I will removed myself from the situation. I don't want this to happen becasuse if I leave it will be for good. My daughter deserves more than to be tossed back and fouth. I love my husband with all my heart. We have had a great marriage will this blow over? Should I think my marriage is over. I cry everytime I am in the shower and scream before he and my daughter get home just to release some of the pain he is causing me. I feel like I have lost so much in the past 12 months and have had to take care of everyone else. All I want is for my husband to get it together and stop this. Is it because he did not get all of my attention? Is this payback or do I take it that he is truly not happy with me anymore and he has been suffering? When do you let go?? I feel like I am the only one doing anything about this. I can not make him get help he should want to in order to keep our marriage in tact. Am I wrong.