I have divorced from a marriage of 13 years with out being with any other man. Or relationship you could say was non sexual due to his religious beliefs. Over the last few months i have been date a great man. We have just recently started having sex. The other night he told me it was ok to take charge in bed. But I really do not know what this means? I definetly would like to please him in this way but do not know how. Can anyone give me some specific tips or direction on what this means or how I can do this?? Thank you for any input.
... The other night he told me it was ok to take charge in bed. But I really do not know what this means? I definetly would like to please him in this way but do not know how. Can anyone give me some specific tips or direction on what this means or how I can do this?
I agree with Luce ... but I'd also add that you might want to simply ask your new man to elaborate a bit. I think asking a woman to take charge in bed can mean many different things to different people. Some men like a really aggressive woman in the sack ... which could mean telling him what to do, how to do it, when to do it ... it could also mean talking dirty ... it could also mean doing some things you might not ordinarily think of (especially given that your ex-husband was super conservative). etc. etc. etc. The possibilities are huge here.
So my advice is to keep an open dialog ... have some fun with it all. And definitely let us all know here how this all develops
Thank you everyone for your replies. Gregory thank you for your expansion and kindness this give me a lot more to think about. Cyndo can you suggest some reading material or sites. I will keep you updated on how things goes. THANKS!!!
Suggestions for reading materials: I won't quote specific titles since its been 9 years since my "enlightenment" period. I ordered many online based on reviews. Books stores will usually have some good basic ones. There were some great videos back then. Oprah has some really good "specific" interviews with Dr. Laura Berman. She is great! A book by her would be a good purchase if any questions remain after you watch the interviews at oprah.com.
As far as accessories go. Men love women on women. That is a standard healthy fantasy. Embrace it and get a video like this to warm up the evening. Nothing like making a romantic meal and having that on in the back room.
Toys/novelties: California Exotics makes some of the best. I have a rabbit type that is great! My favorite of all time (so far) is the Hitachi Magic Wand. I can use it on a sore neck back too! They sell attachments for this. Most are $10. My favorite is "Miracle Massager Soft Jelly G with tantalizing love nuts." The names are wacky, I know. You can find your G-spot with this and know what the big deal is all about.
I hope this is helpful. I will answer just about any question. Try to be specific if you want a specific answer.