Are Midlife Women Worth The Trouble?

[kjmudd]

I am starting to question whether it is worth the trouble to date women in the 38-48 year old range.

I'm thinking of going for women in the 30 -35 year old range exclusively for a while and see what happens - while keeping my more middle aged burnerettes around for sex or a beer (the only things they are apparently good for ha ha). The older women are not going to be as hot and IMHO are not going to be any more whacked out then the younger women. So why bother with the older women very much?

The question is whether or not I can attract the younger chicks. I think I can to a point. I look like a guy in my 30's and am involved with "cool" activities such as an "alternative" rock band.

Yeah I am a little frustrated with these midlife chicks with their bs and pre-post-post-pre-this-that-or-the-ther-thing crippled-ness. Blechhh!

I don't really want to be old and "alone" but if I make it to 65 chances are very good these same whacked midlife girls will still be around and available then...and if I am successful in business maybe find a sexy younger golddigger and go out with a smile on my face ha ha.

So there. I am going to run my thoughts by my female friends but would like some input from the members here.

Are these 40ish women really worth the trouble?

KJM

[gregory]

One man's trash is another man's treasure - I love that expression!

I think the older a woman is, the more mature she is likely to be. Younger women are hotter, older women are often less dramatic. Of course, there are counterpoint examples in each of the demographics - nothing is truly universal. And there are prices to be paid either way.

I'd say you need to go on a "younger woman binge" - and report back with your observations! You could post a new photo of yourself with a hat on sideways??? ha ha ha

[kjmudd]

Originally Posted by gregory

One man's trash is another man's treasure - I love that expression!

I think the older a woman is, the more mature she is likely to be. Younger women are hotter, older women are often less dramatic. Of course, there are counterpoint examples in each of the demographics - nothing is truly universal. And there are prices to be paid either way.

I'd say you need to go on a "younger woman binge" - and report back with your observations! You could post a new photo of yourself with a hat on sideways??? ha ha ha

Ha ha. I don't think my hat will be on sideways anytime soon!

I have not found the older women to be any more mature and certainly not less dramatic. My recent ex-gf who I will now refer to as Miss Short Attention Span is a perfect example....although she informed me yesterday that she just bought a new bed. Maybe she will redeem herself through nostalgia ha ha.

Of course there are exceptions....and they have been properly notified! ha ha

Ok I'll start out with the 26 year old laser-hair-remover and work my way up to the older chicks in the 30-35 year old range and see what happens. I did notice that on the online dating sites there are far more younger women than the older ones.

KJM

[misunderstood]

I certainly hope so KJ. But it doesn't look too promising right now.

I am trying to make a go at the big commitment and there are a lot of road blocks. The women in this age group seem to be very set in their ways and not too receptive to compromise. I don't know if it is a traite of that age group in general or if it is also a product of the era in which this particular generation was born and raised. They truely seem to believe that they can have their cake and eat it too. I know we all want that, but you need to approach it with a certain amount of reality and realize that life is full of compromises. Very few people in this world today are able to set their sites high and narrow and be successful in all aspects.

Unless you're willing to put in a huge amount of energy with little promise of a return, you just might want to make avoiding this group of women one of your dating rules. It served me well for years, right up there with my do not date nurses rule.

[kjmudd]

Originally Posted by misunderstood

I certainly hope so KJ. But it doesn't look too promising right now.

I am trying to make a go at the big commitment and there are a lot of road blocks. The women in this age group seem to be very set in their ways and not too receptive to compromise. I don't know if it is a traite of that age group in general or if it is also a product of the era in which this particular generation was born and raised. They truely seem to believe that they can have their cake and eat it too. I know we all want that, but you need to approach it with a certain amount of reality and realize that life is full of compromises. Very few people in this world today are able to set their sites high and narrow and be successful in all aspects.

Unless you're willing to put in a huge amount of energy with little promise of a return, you just might want to make avoiding this group of women one of your dating rules. It served me well for years, right up there with my do not date nurses rule.

Yes Misunderstood I am strongly considering making it a rule. I don't have a lot of dating rules but am thinking of a cut off age as 37 (same age as my fun ex-gf the freaky girl)....with few exceptions.

Over 37 Need Not Apply could be my new online dating profile headline. What do I have to lose?

Tomorrow night I am meeting my recent ex-gf Miss Attention Deficit (formerly the smart party girl). Since I have a candid relationship with her I will announce my new dating rule to her.....that she and her midlife colleagues are just too set in their ways for me for me.

I am in pretty good shape, have all my hair with very little gray... and will hit the gym to develop a "six-pack." I figure I have maybe a 3 year window of opportunity to try to date the younger chicks.

Thanks Misunderstood! You are an inspiration! I will add No Dates With Midlife Chicks to my rulebook...right next to No Flowers for One Year.

KJM

[Phillyboy]

Originally Posted by misunderstood

It served me well for years, right up there with my do not date nurses rule.

Just curious...why no nurses? I've never dated a nurse and don't have any plans to, but in case I ever run into the situation, I'm curious about the pitfalls. Is it their work schedule? Their contact with sick people? Are nurses all crazy? (One upside though is that they can alwasy find work, right?)

[misunderstood]

Ah yes, the "No Nurses" rule. here is a little background. I have a 20+ year career in the medical industry, more specifically the technology end (equipment management and I.T.) I have worked with along side of nurses through that entire time. Some of my friends used to say they envied me with a supposedly endless supply of women at hand. At first, it was cool. I always had dates and I became very good at the practice of "not burning bridges" as KJ points out can be a very useful rule for a bachelor. No matter how big a hospital is, whatever happens on a date can get back to you before you clock in the next day. Nothing is sacred. That was one reason.

A woman who makes a decision to become a nurse, is a very unique character. I would almost equate it to becoming a nun. They choose to devote their energy to something greater than themselves. This is a truely wonderful thing. These women have a thankless job and it draws a lot out of them. They are some of the strongest women I know. Given all of that, plus the fact that there is a shortage of nurses in this country, and it is a major shortage, they are constantly having huge demands on their time. Another reason.

I could go on and on about what these women endure all of the time, but the bottom line is that at the end of the day, they are burned out. They have nothing left for themselves or anyone else. It takes a very strong, patient and understanding gentleman to be with them during their off hours.

The rewards that come with dating a nurse can be great. When they choose to allow someone into their lives, they can be very affectionate and devoted. When they want to let loose and party, they put themselves into it completely. I have had soome of the best and wildest times partying with them. Operating Room nurses have some of the kinkiest libidos I have ever experienced.

But after a while, I just couldn't handle the emotional land mines and the frustration that they have to internalize until they are in a safe place to let it out.

Trust me when I say that I love all types of women and I do mean all. But I have to draw a line when it comes to nurses. That's just the way it became for me.

[gregory]

The girlfriend I had prior to my current one was an ICU nurse - and everything said above about nurses fits like a glove.

She took her job extremely seriously. But as soon as she was off - she drank like a fish. She was a major party girl - and that was certainly fun for a while ... until she got embarrassing (drinking too much in public and getting loud, etc. on many occassions). She was extremely hot ... and she earned a better living than most of the women I've dated ... and I definitely liked that about her.

Now what is interesting is that I have not dated other nurses - so in my mind, I viewed her as someone of an "endpoint" ... but what I hear above is that she is more of a "centerpiece". Interesting. If I were not living with my girlfriend, I would probably want to go and collect some more data on this subject!

[misunderstood]

Originally Posted by gregory

... until she got embarrassing (drinking too much in public and getting loud, etc. on many occassions).

Nurses are incredibly uninhibited. I would attribute this to the environment in which they work. They deal with people in the most intimate way on a daily basis. There is nothing they haven't seen. When they party, they really let loose and they aren't worried about who is watching.

[kjmudd]

Originally Posted by misunderstood

Nurses are incredibly uninhibited. I would attribute this to the environment in which they work. They deal with people in the most intimate way on a daily basis. There is nothing they haven't seen. When they party, they really let loose and they aren't worried about who is watching.

I have attempted to connect with a couple of nurses (RNs) and they seemed close to comotose....supected the job had something to do with it.

An update on my dating situation. I informed Miss Attention Deficit that she has been grandfathered in as an over-40 I will consider dating.....when explaining my reservations on dating older women I hemed and hawed and she spewed out the question..."set in their ways?" Ha ha.

Another girl who I am making an exception for is the bomb engineer chick who I will now call the Adrenalin Junkie because she races 200mph motorcyles. We had a very nice date. Incredibly we had met before about 16 years ago but we were both married at the time.

So I am now faced with the "problem" of two hot women who are really into me and I am still forging ahead with my under 40 Latina only dating model for all future contacts!

The Adrenalin Junkie gets the edge over Miss Attention Deficit because she is obviously very intelligent (designs explosive devices for gosh sake) and I like smart girls who have a wild side...plus she is more family oriented, makes big $$$, and we have some things in common.

Next week I plan on making many contacts in the under 40 Latina group and will call a hot Latina who I know likes me for a second date.

KJM