Are Midlife Women Worth The Trouble?

[gladius]

Older women (my age) are less interested in me, and men, in general. (Once again, not all older women.) Some seem to have a chip on their shoulder or are insecure or have 10 competing interests while I'm looking for someone who will be extremely important to me. Not just sex, but love, time, and so on.

I've met too many women post-divorce but have had the pleasure of some very good relationships. I look for love (or at least strong feelings) first and foremost. I never ask a woman her age or judge her by her age; it's just that the women attracted to me (perhaps who tend to still have a strong interest in dating) are usually less than 50 years old. It's probably, in part, menopause or pre-menopause, for some of these women (not just the interest in men and sex but insecurity and finding new activities and hanging with girlfriends), but also something else. Perhaps they have changed their mindset or been disappointed/left too often --- I don't know. I'm just going by personal
experience.

[Perry]

Originally Posted by kjmudd

I agree with Perry here but also, like Maja, would like to know about some success stroies and what makes them successful.

KJM

There are success stories out there. I have come across several both online as well as offline. I think what makes them successful because whatever they did worked for them. I put it in bold because what works for some does not work for others.

And another, to me very important, thing is to define 'successful'. I mean, I would not necessarily consider it a success story just because two people stay together for several years. They might be staying together simply because neither wants to be alone or start dating again or because they have a house together.

I am single and maybe I am not objective. But I do have the gut feeling that I am happier in my single state than many of those who are in a long-term relationship.

But maybe this belongs in another thread.

[Perry]

Originally Posted by gladius

Perhaps they have changed their mindset or been disappointed/left too often --- I don't know. I'm just going by personal
experience.

I think you are onto something here. I think there is in general a change of mind when it comes to midlife. 50 is the new 40 or something like that. Hitting 50 does not mean anymore that you're life is about to be over and all you can do is to spend your remaining time knitting warm winter sweaters for the grandchildren.

The women who are now in their 50s are different from previous generations because they live in the post-emancipation area. They work, they make their own money, they can support themselves. And many had work AND a family to take care of. They may be less inclined to 'take on' someone else. They enjoy their freedom. They might associate a relationship with being the one responsible to prepare dinner, the laundry etc. I am not saying that this is what men want from a relationship. But it might be something that a woman is a afraid of.

[Perry]

over at esquire and it seems that Helen Mirren is clearly in the lead and leaving Megan Fox way behind. I thought it fits into this thread. Here's the link:

http://www.esquire.com/women/the-sex...s-helen-mirren