Smart Party Girl Chronicles

kjmudd · #1 12-31-2009, 03:23 PM

I have suddenly found myself going out with a Smart Party Girl on a regular basis. Tonight is date 3. She has been acting frisky on the text messages so it is quite possible we will retire early on new years eve to knock it out.

We had mutual attraction on our first date although it took a little while (and a few beers) to really develop into something.

Very smart chick capable of very engaging, intelligent and funny conversations about all kinds of subjects.

Oh and she is HOT. Very nice blonde hair, big blue eyes and in very good shape. If we do knock it out tonight there is really no way of predicting where things will go from there but I am optimistic of some fun times ahead and see a possible LIVE one here.

KJM

gregory · #2 12-31-2009, 04:11 PM

Excellent - start the New Year off with a bang! Actually - a new decade off, in this case.

Good for you. My girlfriend is working tonight ... so I will probably kill a bottle of wine myself ... alone in front of the TV

I may also make some hot salsa ... my girlfriend's aunt taught me how to make authentic Mexican salsa a few years ago, and I just returned from the store with all the ingredients. The chips won't be good for my waistline though!

kjmudd · #3 01-01-2010, 10:59 AM

We went out for a fabulous dinner on New Year's eve and then she invited me to her place to "watch tv."

After some talking and a little beer things got really steamy. At some point she announced that we were "not going to have sex tonight" and said something about needing to get to know each other better.

So we had a very hot but interminable make out session. Her shirt came off etc. We did the New Year's Eve midnight kiss thing. Did practically everything you could possible do without taking off ones pants.

She said she thought it was very "manly" of me to show "restraint." Of course I replied that we didn't know each other well enough to be talking about "restraints." ha ha

At some point late in the evening she put her hand into my back pocket and found condoms which led to a lively discussion.

Anyway she is obviously not like my last gf. Will probably have to meet her a few more times before we actually knock it out. All indications are good and that we will be compatible.....any girl who likes to make out for hours is not going to be into the quickies that I can't stand.

This was our third date. Is it normal to still not have had sex after 3 dates?

KJM

gregory · #4 01-01-2010, 12:57 PM

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Originally Posted by kjmudd

... She said she thought it was very "manly" of me to show "restraint." Of course I replied that we didn't know each other well enough to be talking about "restraints." ha ha
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This was our third date. Is it normal to still not have had sex after 3 dates?

I like the "restraint" comment - well done, Sir!

On your other question about whether it is normal to still not have had sex after three dates ... I'd say the important thing is that things are moving forward in a positive direction (toward sex). If instead she would not even have kissed you, then THAT would be a big warning sign that she doesn't think you are compatible, or she is frigid, or something else. But from what you describe, it sounds like she just wants to move at a slow pace. Nothing wrong with that, I suppose!

Here's a reference to my interpretation of The Three Date Rule from the section of midlifebachelor.com called Develop a Strategy for Midlife Bachelor Success ...

kjmudd · #5 01-01-2010, 07:02 PM

Thanks I read the three date rule article and it was very helpful. I am thinking the quality of women I have dated over the last 15 months hasn't been that great, in general. So my perspective is still a little skewed.

Her and I have texted quite a bit tonight. She is definitely very interested in me so will see how it goes.

KJM

kjmudd · #6 01-03-2010, 08:09 AM

This is getting extremely hot.

I have seen this girl now 4 times in one week. That's a lot.

She is very horny but we are trying to "control" ourselves. I took her out to a couple of fun local places. We returned and had another long make out session and I got to perform oral sex on her, which drove her completely crazy.

As hot as she is I have basically told her I want to go slow....don't want a sex only relationship. We have a great time together, great conversations and chemistry so I don't want to mess that up with sex. I figure it will be better if we "hold out" as long as possible.

KJM

gregory · #7 01-04-2010, 06:41 AM

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Originally Posted by kjmudd

...We returned and had another long make out session and I got to perform oral ssex on her, which drove her completely crazy.

As hot as she is I have basically told her I want to go slow....don't want a sex only relationship. We have a great time together, great conversations and chemistry so I don't want to mess that up with sex. I figure it will be better if we "hold out" as long as possible.

This will be an interesting experiment ... slowing the start of the sexual part of the relationship down at the front end. Perhaps it will result in a longer relationship time-wise ... or maybe not. Not having sex will definitely prevent any artificial "masks" from clouding anyone's judgment. I think this will be a great experiment ... !!!

So "going down on her" - that didn't count as sex, right?

kjmudd · #8 01-04-2010, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by gregory

This will be an interesting experiment ... slowing the start of the sexual part of the relationship down at the front end. Perhaps it will result in a longer relationship time-wise ... or maybe not. Not having sex will definitely prevent any artificial "masks" from clouding anyone's judgment. I think this will be a great experiment ... !!!

So "going down on her" - that didn't count as sex, right?

Well depends on the definition of "is" I suppose, ha ha ha.

She is chomping at the bit to have sex with me especially after I gave her that sample.....so it is VERY challenging for me to refrain. I am thinking of making her wait a few more days after peppering her with intermittent explicit text messages.

This is most certainly a LIVE ONE and has been asking me all kinds of questions on what kind of things I like during sex etc.

Part of my success here has to do with my last relationship....the sex-crazed Freaky Girl (who has suddenly started to text me again). Even though that relationship didn't end on an ideal note I got to practice my flirting a lot and sexual banter....which goes to show we can always learn...even an idiot like myself.

KJM

kjmudd · #9 01-05-2010, 06:48 AM

She and I had another good conversation last night.

We decided that we need to have sex soon and that we would discuss intellectual things when we were not not having sex.

With our scheduling it will probably be tonight or thursday before we can actually knock it out.

She told me I am a good "seducer"....is that a compliment?

KJM