Smart Party Girl Chronicles

[gregory]

Originally Posted by kjmudd

I did see the smart party girl last night. She brought over some chinese food and homemade cookies for my kids. We had planned on a pg-13 date since we are both not feeling well but didn't end up that way.

What did you tell the kids about all the noise coming from the bedroom? Did you say that she was simply "cracking your back"? Or how did you explain it to them???

[kjmudd]

Originally Posted by gregory

What did you tell the kids about all the noise coming from the bedroom? Did you say that she was simply "cracking your back"? Or how did you explain it to them???

Gregory,

That is a good question. My kids have never asked me anything about it. We tried to be as quiet as possible. My gf did make a comment over the weekend saying something like "do your boys just think dad's gonna get some when they see me come over?"

I think the first time she was over she was a little loud. The other day she was biting her arm in an attempt to keep quiet ha ha.

I usually blare the television in the backgound. With my last gf the freaky girl it was always on UFC. I may need to record an appropriatley loud sporting event like drag racing or UFC on my dvr to utilize for such occasions.

KJM

[kjmudd]

My annoyance meter is starting to tingle just a bit with this smart party girl. The problem is we have both been sick with a bad cold for over 1 week. We are getting over it now but it has slowed things down to a crawl and she said she is getting bored with us being sick. This has prevented her from doing any "smart partying" with me.

I am sensing some tentativeness that might keep this from going to the next level. I am sure it will play itself out one way or another as we get better. Just in case I am warming up the back burners.

KJM

[kjmudd]

This smart party girl has really redeemed herself by apologizing for her annoying behavior. We are really very attracted to each other and enjoy our conversations so much....especially over a beer or two!

We agreed to keep dating and having fun together and to decided whether to consider an exclusive dating deal at the end of February...if we are still together.

This works out well for me as I can see the Freaky Girl and anybody else I want without guilt.

KJM

[kjmudd]

This relationship is almost at a point where it will either go into exclusive dating or it will end. I am finding that I need a little reasurrance from this chick that I am not just sex and party guy to her. She has already said during our recent big discussion that she is very much into me and likes me a lot.

Nevertheless her communication on the weekends is not the best. I have basically stopped using any "pet names" and stopped sweet talking with her since last week because I want to see some action and proof that she is really into me.

Don't get me wrong 7 hours of great sex in one night with this hot chick is fantastic but I am getting a little tired of playing around and want to find out if this chick is ready for a relationship. If she ain't then time to move on.

A red flag is that she says she didn't date for 7 years but she just showed me a letter she sent to her ex-bf who I will call the Honky Tonk Man...dumping him for me. I need to find out how long she was dating him and do a little more digging on her before I can really decide if she is relationship material.

KJM

[kjmudd]

Well this ended very abruptly tonight! I spoke with the smart party girl and she said she felt wierd about all the great sex we had last thursday and wondered if that was all we had in common. Funny all she could do was talk about how great it was on Friday and now she says she felt wierd about it.

For the record she was totally wrong....we had A LOT in common and only had sex on three occasions. The rest of the time was spent talking and enjoying each other's company...over about 9 dates!This was a red flag of a psycho.....there is a reason why this girl has never been married and didn't date for 7 years and I don't want to find out why.

I told her I thought she was not ready for a relationship and that I won't put up with hot and cold BS and ended it. Was wasting my time.

It was certainly fun and while dissapointing (AGAIN) another possible good learning experience for me....I hope.

I am getting really tired of dating women who have great chemistry with me who show themselves to be unstable....or hide behind barriers and want to run or make excuses when things are about to get "serious."

Not bragging here but this is second woman in a row who could not "process" the greatest sex of their lives. I feel like I am being penalized for being good in the sack.

I dunno maybe need to wait for a couple of months of dating to go by before I knock it out with any chick for the first time so they don't freak out about the hot sex.

KJM

[gregory]

Is it possible that you are becoming too emotionally invested too soon? At the risk of repeating myself, my advice would be to go into these situations with zero expectations ... because with zero expectations, you will never be let down.

Take each date with one of these women as a one-time occassion ... be happy about being out with someone nice ... and don't think about the future any further than 10 minutes from the moment when you are with them. That reduces the pressure on them, and on yourself. Success does not necessarily mean a long-term relationship has been achieved - success can simply mean having a nice time with someone one evening ...

[kjmudd]

Originally Posted by gregory

Is it possible that you are becoming too emotionally invested too soon? At the risk of repeating myself, my advice would be to go into these situations with zero expectations ... because with zero expectations, you will never be let down.

Take each date with one of these women as a one-time occassion ... be happy about being out with someone nice ... and don't think about the future any further than 10 minutes from the moment when you are with them. That reduces the pressure on them, and on yourself. Success does not necessarily mean a long-term relationship has been achieved - success can simply mean having a nice time with someone one evening ...

I will try your advice. Perhaps redine my definition of success. I have set up a hang out date with my prior ex-gf the Freaky Girl and will try to apply the one-time occasion plus 10 minutes success method. She should be a good one to test this with.

KJM

[kjmudd]

This girl has been emailing and texting me intermittantly and last night called me. She said via text she is rethinking her patterns on how she handles relationships etc.

We are supposed to go out on Friday night for a beer. Should be interesting. Certainly she has a very short attention span....if we talk on the phone or in person about intellectual topics then she sees that value in that. After we have sex (which is amazing) it is all about sex etc.

I am still really attracted to her physically but not sure about anything else at this point. I would say she would need to be really nice and maybe apologize for her flakiness if she wants things to go any further.

OTOH, she is also a good potential "training date" for me in that as long as we remain friendly and I emphasize "no expectations" we can go probably have fun together (and great sex) for a while.

KJM

[kjmudd]

As far as this chick goes I am still open to having sex with her but she is becoming increasingly annoying. She did tell me she used to have problems getting too close with men and then losing her identity. I told her not to worry with me as I will only try to order her around during sex, which she was ok with.

Lately I think she has taken on the identity of a cat....hopping into my lap when she wants attention....then getting distracted by strings and shiny objects.

KJM