Should My Friend Leave His Cheating Wife? (internet affair)

[Shooter]

Whether she is crazy or not is really irrelevant to what I was talking about. The stuff I said applies across the board. He needs to get himself established back in the house, start quietly gathering information, and if he thinks this is headed for divorce, get legal counsel.

See here for further examples/stories/etc:

http://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/

[kjmudd]

The state where he is is an "no-fault" divorce state. There is no evidence to gather up. She is a perfectly fit mom just a ddouchbag for doing what she did with regard to the marriage.

The only thing he and her will need to do is divide community property equitably. He doesn't care about any of his stuff and is willing to give her any and all property and let her raise the kid. She has been a very good mom and is a responsible employee at her company.

I am concerned that he left because if she wants to be a bbitch in court regarding visitation it makes him look bad and could possibly limit or reduce visitation. This was a "no-drama" situation. The wife is just a moron and my friend cannot trust her anymore.

He is just heartbroken and is not gonna fight for anything - property or money right now. He is willing to give it all to her and is capable of starting over and supporting himself and will pay child support.

KJM

[Shooter]

The information I refer to is his own involvement in his child's life, pics that show him attending the child's events, stuff that shows that he's been there for the child and not an absent parent. The attitude that you're heartbroken and don't care what she takes is what keeps guys in the situation that they're in. He should be ready to have things divided equitably, to get the highest amount of child visitation he can possibly get. If he gets a 50/50 arrangement, he could avoid paying child support, as he would have the child an equal amount of time. But whatever...sitting back and letting her run the show will most likely get him screwed over in a number of ways.

[kjmudd]

Originally Posted by Shooter

The information I refer to is his own involvement in his child's life, pics that show him attending the child's events, stuff that shows that he's been there for the child and not an absent parent. The attitude that you're heartbroken and don't care what she takes is what keeps guys in the situation that they're in. He should be ready to have things divided equitably, to get the highest amount of child visitation he can possibly get. If he gets a 50/50 arrangement, he could avoid paying child support, as he would have the child an equal amount of time. But whatever...sitting back and letting her run the show will most likely get him screwed over in a number of ways.

Yep you are probably right. He won't listen to me right now. Maybe in a few days he will be in a better frame of mind to think about everything a little more sensibly. I will point him to that link when I talk with him again.

I am really thankful my kids are with me in from my marriage.

KJM