Now sometimes jealousy is not quite as all-encompassing as the Greg-Tiffany situation. The live-in girlfriend I had named Regina (the one who was constantly looking for evidence of me cheating on her) was much more focused on my interactions with women ... including and especially my female friends. It so happened about the time that Regina moved in with me - that I had been hanging out a lot with a very good female friend named Krista. Krista was a neighbor of mine - she lived around the corner, and we had become friends because we shared a common interest in riding jet skis. Krista and I had been friends for several years - we had gone on jet ski trips together (bringing along our respective boyfriend/girlfriend, as well as a pack of other people, etc.). Krista was about eight years younger than me - and was fairly attractive. But my friends and I used to joke privately that Krista was really a man ... because she had kind of a hard attitude, tended to bark out orders, plus she had fairly broad shoulders, and typically burned through boyfriends at a rate faster than the rest of us did with our girlfriends. [We gave her the nickname "Roadkill" - because she would (figuratively-speaking) roll right over them, and leave them behind in her rear-view mirror.]
There was absolutely nothing ever sexual going on between me and Krista - never. Not even when neither of us was dating anyone. I truly viewed Krista as "one of the boys", as that was the type of person she really was to me. She was a very good friend. However, when Regina moved in and noticed that Krista and I would talk on the phone, and hang around together - things crashed and burned in a hurry. It wasn't more than a few weeks before Regina accused me of sleeping with Krista ... and insisted that I terminate my friendship with her. Since I had proposed to Regina, and fully intended on marrying her - I proceeded to make two giant mistakes:
• I agreed to terminate my friendship with Krista, at Regina's insistence.
• I came out and told Krista that I could no longer be friends with her because Regina didn't like it.
Terminating my friendship with a woman at my girlfriend's insistence was a very bad move - primarily because it set a precedent for future friendship governance by Regina. In other words, from that day forward, two things were expected of me ... first that I would have NO female friends, and second that she would have a say-so on who my friends could be. Trust me - you never want to give a woman that much power, as it has nowhere to go but further downhill for you later on.
Explaining to Krista why I could no longer be her friend was my second stupid move. Remember that Krista was "one of the boys", and imagine telling one of your buddies that you can no longer talk nor hang out anymore ... you are "breaking up the friendship". I said that Krista was man-like - and this especially applied to her language. She gave me verbal grief just like any of my male buddies would have done - she called me a wimp and a pussy, ... she said that any girl that made me ditch my friends was a crazy bitch. At the time, I told her, "I know, I know ... but I have to do this ... please don't cause trouble." Krista did go away as I asked her to do ... but after Regina eventually moved out some four months later, I was eating my words around Krista. And my friendship with Krista was never, ever the same after that episode.
The single most important lesson from the Regina-Krista situation is that you must NEVER, EVER allow any woman to determine who your friends are. If you have very attractive female friends, you do need to sympathize with your girlfriend - and make sure you are not doing anything to lead a sane person to believe you are fooling around with your female friend. In other words, don't spend the night at the female friend's home ... don't kiss the female friend ... don't have secrets with the female friend, don't make the female friend's photo too prominent anywhere, etc. If there is any doubt about what actions or activities you should or should not enjoy with your female friend - just imagine the reverse situation where your girlfriend has a male friend, and if you would not be comfortable with her doing something similar, then don't do it! Be respectful - but don't be a puss!
The second lesson I learned from the Regina-Krista situation had to do with me going to Krista (my friend), and telling her I could not talk to her nor hang out with her anymore because Regina objected. The real lesson is more high-level than the details of this episode ... and that lesson is when you have to do something you know is stupid, don't announce it! Otherwise, you will receive a lot of scrutiny and grief over it - as I did with Krista. It would have been better for me to have handled such a situation (where I was being a hen-pecked puss) much more quietly ... maybe by phasing Krista out by not calling her back, etc.
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