Types of Women - Dullard

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Types of Women – Dullard
A dullard is someone who is just flat out dull, boring, uninteresting, and probably uninterested in many things. They usually lack a colorful personality, and also typically have low self-esteem. As a midlife bachelor, you can date a dullard – just be prepared to be bored. And be prepared for the fact that YOU will always need to create all of the excitement in the relationship, as dullard women are followers, not leaders. In the past, when I have discovered myself dating a woman who is boring and dull, I have privately nicknamed her “Betty Boring”. And when we as a couple have together become extremely boring together, I have referred to us as “Bob and Betty Boring”. When I used the “Bob and Betty Boring” reference openly, my dullard girlfriends did not get especially upset with me – primarily because I’ve always been a big joker, and they came to expect something like that from me. Plus I was referring to both of us – not just her … and that makes a difference. But privately – I knew she was really the boring one!

Don’t confuse a dullard with someone who just has COMPLETELY DIFFERENT INTERESTS than you – because that is completely unrelated. [If you and a woman have absolutely no common interests, then unless you are temporarily having great sex with her – you should probably quit the relationship (since you have nothing in common but your “parts”).] A woman with some different interests is fine – that makes her interesting in my book. But a woman who is interested in nothing is a dullard! Let’s visit a couple of examples to help you as a midlife bachelor differentiate between a dullard versus someone who is just different.

I’ll start with the dullard. The sister of a female friend of mine arranged for me to meet a very pretty younger girlfriend of hers who happened to work in the same insurance department at a local bank. I wasn’t expecting much from this introduction because previous blind dates had been consistent wastes of my time. But I remember walking into the bank, and then meeting this woman – and WOW was she ever hot stuff. She was about ten years younger than me, olive skin, nice full lips, great smile, and a great-looking rack – hot dog, I was thrilled. Since this was just a “Hello – how are you”-type introduction, it only lasted maybe five or ten minutes … just long enough for each of us to check the other out. The sister of the female friend had vouched for both of us to the other already – and now that I had seen this woman, I thought “Yep – I would definitely go out with her”. And so I did – I took her out several times, and each time I found myself struggling to keep the conversation moving. It seemed that Tabitha (that was her name) was very attractive, but she had very little to say. Now don’t get me wrong – sometimes a quiet woman can be an enormous blessing … but what I was reading from her went further than just quiet. She really did not do anything except work … she was not really interested in shopping (huh?) … she didn’t have any hobbies or play any sports (huh?) … and pretty much all she did was watch TV when she wasn’t working. I did take her and her 5 year old son out jet skiing once, and the child screamed bloody murder – and Tabitha told me she wouldn’t want to do that again. I remember thinking to myself, “what exactly floats this woman’s boat?” No – I didn’t sleep with her … after a few dates, I just couldn’t keep our conversations going any longer, as I had run out of things to say. She was so dull that the only thing I could do was ABANDON SHIP – which is a great strategy for a midlife bachelor to pursue in cases like this.

Here’s a different kind of example. At work I met this very smoking hot Latina engineer named Trish. She had big eyes, full lips, and was very intelligent. She was the hottest female electrical engineer I’ve ever met – so hot that I found myself stumbling in my words around her (which is embarrassing). To make a long story short, I was able to get her out for several dinner dates. As I got to know her, it turned out that she was pretty much the polar opposite of me. She was not materialistic whereas I am extremely materialistic. She liked older beater automobiles, and was not impressed with my brand-new BMW M3 … which I found very odd. One really big difference between us came out during our first dinner date – she told me that she had a very large tattoo on her ass, and that it extended up from her leg, and around to her back. I was somewhat in disbelief because Electrical Engineers are not typically tattooed – so I had her show me this monster tattoo … and sure enough, it was huge. [It was also a huge turn off for me – but I figured I would at least get her in the sack before passing further judgment (because she was so hot).] The next dinner date with Trish came, and after dinner we walked around downtown Brea, CA – and wandered together into a bookstore. She gravitated over to the magazine rack, and began looking at one of the hard-core tattoo rags on the shelf … and started pointing out to me which ones she thought were cool, and which type she was thinking about to cover her back. Cover her back? I couldn’t just sit there and lie to the woman by telling her that I thought heavily tattooed women are sexy … so I told her what I was thinking at the time, that I couldn’t possibly understand why anyone other than a rock star would do that to themselves, and that I thought it looked really ghetto. You should have seen Trish’s face – she was so angry with me. I got no kiss goodnight – nothing. And once again, I pursued the ABANDON SHIP strategy … which was entirely appropriate because I just couldn’t go along with this woman’s interests. So the point here is that Trish was NOT a dullard – she had interests … those interests were just so different than mine that it made continuation of our dating ridiculous. Boy, she was hot though. My message here – don’t confuse a dullard with someone who has interests that are extremely different than yours … but recognize that the end-result is often the same as with a dullard, and that is that these relationships are often doomed.

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