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Dating Women with Children can be Challenging
Key Principle #1:
Don’t be upset if she excludes you from being around her children.
Many women today will not introduce someone to their children until they have been dating that person for a while. Be grateful that such a woman values what her children think of her - it is a sign that she is careful and cognizant of her children's feelings. Sometimes we men might feel slighted in such a case - like the woman doesn't think we are worth introducing us to her children ... and nothing could be further from the truth. A woman who won't introduce you to her children right away deserves praise for being a great mother first and foremost. The risk in her introducing you to her children too soon is that you may wind up spending time with them - and if things do not work out in the relationship with the mother, then the breakup not only affects the mother but also the children. Recall that the children have also experienced the breakup of their mother and father, and so another additional breakup can be very unnecessarily hard on the children. The less emotional heartache any child goes through, the better off that child is - so just remember that if you find yourself dating someone who does not yet feel comfortable introducing her to her children. The well-being and emotional health of the children have to always come first. Everything I say here is true for all children regardless of their age - but is increasingly important the younger a child is. Bottom line - don't be offended if a woman won't introduce you to her children right away. She is doing this for their benefit - life is not all about you!
Women in my life have gone both ways in terms of introducing or not introducing me right away to their children. Hot Latina Nurse Debi did not introduce me to her two teenage daughters for months - and I was not offended. Debi pretty much kept me away from her daughters - mostly because they were in the late teen years where they were in to doing their own thing, and could care less about their Mom's new boyfriend. When my relationship with Debi ended, it really didn't affect anyone except her and me - and that was fine. In contrast, Becky the very hot blonde nymphomaniac immediately introduced me to her 13-year old daughter, Christina - and when Becky and I broke up, I missed her daughter as much as I missed Becky. It was like breaking up with two people - so sad!
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