Develop a Strategy for Midlife Bachelor Success
Step 2: Conquer the Basics and Start Dating >> Lead Generation
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Lead Generation – Finding New Women to Date
If you are like most guys, you probably have some sort of base level of women who you know already like you. These are women who are somehow part of the routine of your daily or weekly business – and you are already aware that they are interested in you. They are your “fan club”. If you are outgoing and/or especially good-looking, you probably have a large fan club – and can start your dating adventure by picking from that pool of candidates. However, if you had been married for a long-time – and/or if you have basically been a prick … then you may have a substantially smaller fan club, or possibly even no fan club to mine for dating candidates.
What do you do if you don’t have any women around who you want to go out with? You take positive, proactive steps to generate new leads. I use the term “leads” because I’ve been in sales for the past twenty years … and essentially “leads” are what bring you new business. And new business is exactly what we are talking about for you, the midlife bachelor, who is short on women to date.
I say that you must take “positive, proactive steps” to generate new leads, to meet new women because it will take effort on your part. You cannot sit at home on your couch in front of the television, and expect that women will somehow line up to meet you – that just doesn’t happen. You may just have to break out of your comfort zone, and try new things in order to meet women. One thing is certain – it will definitely be a major positive personal growth experience for you. Sure breaking out of your shell, and meeting new women will have its ups and downs. You will experience success and failure. Your roughest times will likely be at the beginning of your journey, but take heart that good times do await you!
Every rejection or failure makes you stronger and more knowledgeable. If you try to meet a woman or attempt to strike up a conversation with her – and she completely blows you off, that is fine. It is HER LOSS, not yours. Maybe you didn’t see the wedding ring on her finger? Maybe she was waiting for her boyfriend? Maybe she is a lesbian? Maybe she likes guys with tattoos and shaved heads? Or maybe she is just a rude bitch? Sometimes you will never know – but other times, you can later analyze a failed interaction and possibly figure out what you could have done differently. Maybe you said something cheesy to her, and it sounded pathetic? Maybe you looked nervous, and she thought you were some sort of freak show? Maybe you had a booger on your face? When you are trying to figure out what lessons you’ve learned from a particular interaction, be sure to take a hard look at yourself. Put yourself in the woman’s shoes, and try to envision things from her point of view. Sometimes it helps to get the opinion of a female friend on stuff … sometimes you can even take a female friend with you as your “wing man”, and get her direct input on what you are doing or saying. Not all of us have that luxury, of course – so it might just be up to you to figure it out. All I can tell you is that practice makes perfect – and even though no two interactions with a new woman are the same, you will become more skilled from a conversation standpoint the more often you try.
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