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3) Try to smile, and say something positive.  If you see a group of women somewhere – and they are all about the same in terms of looks … and one of the women is smiling … tell me which of those women you will be attracted to?  Of course, the one with the largest breasts!   No, silly – I said all the women are equal in terms of looks … just that one is smiling, and the rest are not.   You will be attracted to the woman who is smiling.

The smile is the most basic positive form of non-verbal communication – it informs the world of your happiness.   And people are most often attracted to other happy people.   You as a midlife bachelor have to take a look at your overall demeanor – what default expression does your face carry?   Do you scowl?  Do you have a neutral blank look?  Are you always looking down at the ground, versus up at eye-level?  Do you look happy, or sad, or angry, or stressed?  Just like using a map, you have to understand where you are now before you can figure out how to get where you need to be.  I’m not saying you need to walk around with a stupid grin on your face – people will think you are mentally-challenged if you do.   What I am saying is that some of us need to adapt our outlook to something more positive, and create a matching overall ambiance … which includes how we look when we are walking around, how we react to life’s everyday events, etc.   Being a happy, positive person can be a huge challenge – and there are many self-help books out there to assist you, if necessary.   Since I am trying to be relatively brief here, and more thought-provoking – my challenge to you is that you become aware of yourself, and constantly reassess your persona.   Make your goal to be happy and positive, to smile more often, and to focus on saying something positive.   Give it a try, and see how much other people in general warm up to you more or warm up to you faster.   Along with everything else I’ve suggested it should help enable you to attract more women – which is one of your primary goals as a midlife bachelor.

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Midlife Bachelor chronicles lifestyle, dating, and relationship experiences and advice to avoid a midlife crisis. Readers like you are often beyond young adulthood in their 30’s, 40’s, and 50’s that want to understand how dating, sex, relationships, and love fit in with our lifestyles.